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In his letter to the church at Ephesus, Paul admonished believers to speak the truth in love (Eph 4:15a).  Before looking at Paul’s words in context, let’s understand the principle behind Paul’s words: We should always be speaking in love.  Peter said that we are to be ready always to give a reason for our hope. And that requires speaking. He also said we are to give the reason with kindness and gentleness—and that’s speaking in love. (1 Pet 3:15).  

So also in Proverbs, we are told, “pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones” (Prov 16:24) and “a soft answer turns away wrath” (Prov 15:1).  It’s always important that we speak in love. And that means we should use soft, pleasant, kind, and gentle words.

Paul’s Words Misused

It’s likely everyone has heard “I’m just speaking the truth in love.”  It’s often spoken at the end of an accusation, rebuke, or correction as a way to justify the speaker’s words. Perhaps the person is speaking kindly, but the person is also claiming his or her words to be true.  The words might be true, but they might not be. Something is either true or false, based on facts or documented claims, independent of whether the words spoken are kind or harsh.

So why would Paul write saying that we are to speak the truth in love?  And what does it really mean?

Paul’s Words in Context

Let’s read Paul’s words, omitting the parenthetical comments of verse 13. Paul began by writing that Christians are given gifts (Eph 4:7) and listed them:

Eph 4:11  And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; 

We are called and gifted to be prophets, evangelists, and/or pastors and teachers of God’s words. What does that mean?  Let’s look at each gift:

  • apostles:  Many were still alive at that time. (These would be called disciples in our time. And all Christians are disciples of Jesus.)
  • prophets:  Prophesying is speaking God’s words. We do that when we share biblical truths.
  • evangelists:  We might not all be evangelists by vocation, but we all are called to evangelize by sharing the gospel.
  • pastors and teachers: We are to be pastoral by comforting others and we are to be teachers by helping others understand the Bible.
All of these gifts are for others:

Eph 4:12 For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christl; 

These gifts are also for us:  

Eph 4:14 That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive.

And all of these gifts require speaking:

If we are not to be deceived, we must know God’s words. And we must know God’s words because we are to be apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors, and teachers. 

Therefore, Paul concludes with an admonition to be “… speaking the truth in love.” 

“Speaking the Truth in Love” – A Verse Misused

It’s clear that Paul was speaking about ministry work in the Ephesians 4 verses.  He’s talking about sharing God’s words –evangelizing, comforting, and teaching others about God. This is our commission as disciples and our work as God’s ambassadors (2 Cor 5:20). That means we are to know His message, His words. And we are to share His words with all people. Doing such edifies others, blesses us, and fulfills Jesus’ commandment to be loving:

John 13:34-35  A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.  By this shall all men know that you are my disciples, if you have love one to another.

The truth, in Ephesians 4:15, that Paul was admonishing the Ephesians to speak in love, is THE Truth. It’s biblical truth—the only words that are absolutely true. The world’s “truths,” or an individual’s ‘truths,” will not cause further growth in Christ, which Paul says is the purpose of “speaking THE Truth in love.”

Eph 4:15 ..speaking the truth in love, [others] may grow up in all things into Him who is the head; Christ;

Personal Experience

In settling a dispute, giving a rebuke, or offering correction, labeling one’s words as “speaking the truth in love” is a misuse of the verse. Unless the person’s words are fully supported by biblical teachings and Scripture is quoted, the person is only sharing that which they perceive to be true based on their own understanding.

In 2007, this verse was spoken to me about things that were not true.  Perhaps the person thought they were true, but she provided no evidence to support her claims and no witnesses to verify her words–and she was not using Scripture.  We had different views on a matter, and both of us were only speaking our versions of what we believed to be true.  Her words were kindly and calmly spoken, and so were mine. But her claim was that she was “speaking the truth in love.”  I wanted to say that she was only speaking her version of the truth, as was I.  And I wanted to say that the Ephesians 2:14 verse is about speaking The Truth — God’s words. But I knew that would be of no benefit, so I chose to say nothing.

Proper use of Ephesians 2:14a 

Please do not use Ephesians 2:14a to justify that your wrods are true  “Speaking the truth in love” is about sharing the truths of Scripture.  Let the facts presented facilitate discussion to determine what is true.  It would be best to say,  “My desire is to discuss this with love.”   

John 13:35 By this shall all men know that you are my disciples, if you have love one to another.




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