As I wrote this article about broken relationships and God’s command for reconciliation, a song kept running through my mind (watch the song video below).  Perhaps the words of the song are already playing in your thoughts.  Maybe you haven’t guessed what song it is.  We’ll look at the lyrics at the end of this article, and you can listen to the song, but first, let’s consider broken relationships, the need for reconciliation, and how that is done.  

Relationships can be fragile and they can easily be broken. Some are broken for biblical cause, such as adultery, abuse, or abandonment. But, more often than not, relationships are severed without biblical cause and such broken relationships are outside of the will of God and could be classified as sin. Hmmm…that seems kind of harsh, but as Christians, we are called to be one, united and living in a way that reflects Christ. And the way of Christ is love and unity, not brokenness.  Jesus came to fix brokenness with God and to heal man’s broken heart (Luke 4:18). He expects that we do the same in our broken relationships with others. 

Jesus Brought Reconciliation 

The death of Jesus was the final and complete atonement for the sins of mankind that broke man’s relationship with God.  Jesus offered Himself to pay the price for our sins, to satisfy the wrath of God’s judgment on sin, to reconcile us to God, and to open the way for us to receive forgiveness of sins and a relationship that is without end. There is no greater picture of love, forgiveness, and reconciliation.  The sacrifice of God in sending Jesus and the sacrifice of Jesus in dying for us is the greatest gift of love ever given. 

Are You a Gift Giver?

Is there a relationship in your life that is broken and needs reconciling?  The secular world preaches a message of self-fulfillment at any cost. “Get all you can get.  Be all you can be.  Do all you can do.”  And anyone who gets in your way or disagrees with you…well….just cut them off! Break fellowship with them.  Many relationships have been broken over the smallest of matters, but whatever the circumstances it usually boils down to one or both persons not getting what they want

Ask yourself, did Jesus want to go to the cross?  We know that Jesus asked God the Father if there be any other way to reconcile man, and may it be? (Mat 26:39)  But there was no other way and, in love for His Father, Jesus always did His Father’s will.

God wants us to depend on Him and to always, in all things, do His will. That includes reconciling.  Is there someone with whom you’ve broken fellowship?  As you answer that question, are you already counting the reasons why you are justified in doing so?  Perhaps it’s time to stop keeping a record of wrongs and start loving the person more (1 Cor 13).  Jesus loved us enough to suffer and die for us.  Can you find enough love to “die” to yourself and set aside your wants to do God’s will?  Consider again what Jesus did for you, then ask yourself…

Is There Anything Jesus Cannot Ask of You?

Jesus gave His all for us and we owe our all to Him.  He took our brokenness and made us whole.  Whatever Jesus asks of us, we should be willing to do.  So when it comes to relationships, what does Jesus ask of us?  

Jesus not only asks, He also commands, that we love one another. Love God and love our neighbors are the commandments meant to govern our lives. We find it very easy to love Jesus because He gave His life for us and has given us eternal life. What a blessing. What great gifts.  

But how about our loving others?  Do you love them only when they meet your needs?  Do you love them only if they do what you want?  That is not loving them and that is not what Jesus calls us to.  He calls us to agape love, a sacrificial love.  He calls us to love the unlovable because in His eyes they are just as lovable as you. He calls us to love even when we don’t want to, even when we don’t get what we want or what we think we need.  He calls us to love others for His sake.

Three Questions

  1. Is there someone in your life you need to reconcile with?
  2. Are you willing to reconcile broken or suffering relationships in your life as Jesus did for you?  
  3. Are you able to give the kind of sacrificial love that Jesus has given to you to that person?  

If you answered, yes, to question number one, then you also need to answer yes to the other two questions.  Jesus doesn’t ask us to consider reconciling and loving, He tells us to do it. And when we remember that we have already been given everything we need, we are free to give everything we have, including the sacrificial love that is needed to reconcile.  

Reconciliation Ministry

The ministry of reconciliation that Jesus was given is also given to us by God:

2 Corinthians 5:18  And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation.

If there is someone with whom you need to reconcile (“yes” to Q1) then Jesus will give you the desire to do so (Q2). Jesus will also give you the love you need that will make it possible (Q3).  You might be thinking your broken relationship is too broken to repair, too difficult to reconcile.  Perhaps it is for you, but with Jesus you are able.  Jesus will always strengthen you to do His will.  Jesus said to Paul, “My grace is sufficient for you: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Cor 12:9) And Paul got it!  He responded affirming what we must always remember: that whatever we face, when we turn to Christ in our weakness, He will be strong for us (2 Cor 12:10)

Philippians 4:13  I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.

Bless someone in your life today. Repair a broken relationship. Reconcile and make things new, for the day may come when it will be too late. 

Ephesians 4:32  And be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.


How Can You Mend a Broken Heart?

I can think of younger days when living for my life
Was everything a man could want to do
I could never see tomorrow, but I was never told about the sorrow

And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?

How can you mend this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again

I can still feel the breeze that rustles through the trees
And misty memories of days gone by
We could never see tomorrow, no one said a word about the sorrow

And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?

How can you mend this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again

The words of this song need no explanation.  And for Christians the answer is simple.  Jesus will mend our broken hearts and He will help us mend our broken relationships.
Look at the heart image again.  The love of Christ was most magnificently displayed on the cross.  Jesus binds up our wound and makes us whole again.  His love mends all things and makes all thing new. Let His love work in and through you, and, to borrow words from another song:
Turn your eyes upon Jesus
Look full in his wonderful face
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of his glory and grace.

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